In Part 2 of his conversation with Melissa Carey, behavioral health therapist Jim Ellermeyer explores these questions and more on Fishing Without Bait.

Melissa begins by discussing her introduction to Reiki and other energy-based practices, tracing her interests back to her education in music therapy and the mentors who helped shape her path. She explains her approach to Reiki, the importance of personal intention, and why she does not promise specific outcomes from a session.

The conversation takes a deeply personal turn when Melissa discusses raising four children, including the additional demands that can come with special needs. She speaks openly about loving her children while struggling with the responsibilities and expectations of motherhood.

For Melissa, an important turning point came when she realized she was allowing parenting books, family members, teachers, and society to determine how she should raise her children. By deciding to trust her own choices, she began to experience motherhood differently.

Jim and Melissa also examine the expectations placed on women, the importance of self-concept and self-esteem, and the challenge of recognizing what we deserve in relationships.

Jim asks a powerful question: What are the requirements someone must meet to be with you?

Melissa adds an important perspective: How can someone recognize respect, autonomy, or healthy relationships if they've never experienced them?

This episode invites listeners to consider how mindfulness, honesty, self-trust, and personal responsibility can help us build a life that reflects our own values.

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Jim and Santina explore some of the most important emotional and spiritual challenges of our time, including:
• Finding joy in a world that feels overstimulated and overwhelming
• The myth of productivity and how tying your value to output diminishes your sense of self
• How fear fuels anxiety, and why anxiety can only live in the future—not the present moment
• Honoring the small comforts we take for granted—warmth, food, connection, breath
• How to protect your energy from negative media and emotional overload
• The difference between pleasure and true joy
• How children naturally process emotion with immediacy, and why adults lose that instinct
• Using memories and sensory anchors to return to peace during difficult times
• The illusion of separateness and the importance of compassion
• Breaking generational patterns of unworthiness
• Choosing where to place your attention—and therefore your experience

Santina shares wisdom from her years of intuitive work, helping listeners understand how to stay grounded, grateful, and connected even when the world feels chaotic.

Whether you’re struggling with stress, fear, productivity pressure, or just the pace of modern life, this episode offers comfort, clarity, and actionable mindfulness tools you can use right now.

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Jim opens the conversation by reminding us that self-discovery isn’t about finding a ready-made identity—it’s about creating ourselves with honesty, open-mindedness, and a willingness to try. He introduces the idea that inherent truths are fundamental aspects of identity that aren’t shaped by outside forces. These truths include qualities like empathy, honesty, dependability, intelligence, and the capacity to learn and love.

Through stories, affirmations, and compassionate guidance, Jim breaks down the barriers that commonly derail personal growth: societal pressure, family expectations, fear of judgment, and the tendency to discount our own worth. He encourages listeners to practice “I am confident…” statements to reinforce these inner truths and reclaim ownership of their choices.

Listeners also learn practical tools for maintaining emotional grounding, including a powerful breathing exercise: inhale with the word “Let…” and exhale with “…go.” This simple practice helps calm the nervous system and release self-doubt. Jim adds a gratitude ritual—affirming small wins throughout the day with the phrase, “That’s a positive.”

As always, the episode emphasizes actionable mindfulness: accepting compliments instead of dismissing them, setting boundaries with clarity, exploring what energizes you, and paying attention to the moments that reveal who you really are.

Jim closes the episode with an invitation for listeners to share their own inherent truths and continues the show’s mission of offering practical, compassionate tools for living purposefully, mindfully, and without definitive expectations.

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